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Did you ever get angry at someone who was late picking you up at the airport? Or were you ever on the receiving end of someone else's wrath or indignation? This is the not fun stuff of relationships; it poisons affection and creates distance.

The good news is these feelings are usually preventable.

Rather than feel hurt, angry or misunderstood, take a step back, view the whole picture and look at the context or situation where these irritating infractions occur.

Here's the line of thinking: "If I were really valued by (name here,) they'd be on time." The more time elapses, the more hurt we feel — huffy and self-righteous.

We start judging the other person's motives, lack of character, maybe even think up ways to get even and start calling them names.

Yikes! Remember, these are people we thought were perfectly wonderful just a few minutes before.

Then comes the worry.

Perhaps they were in a car accident or got lost.

Next, we think we screwed up and were unclear.

So we vacillate between blame and concern.

Our emotions run out of control.

Our trust flies out the window.

Our blood pressure rises.



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